Why am I not confident?

Generally, confidence is developed by doing new things and by improving existing capabilities. New activities and skills often represent a challenge and might be perceived as 'difficult' - even beyond our capabilities. Yet we won't actually know until we start and give it our best efforts and our imagination is the main influencing factor before we take action.

Essentially, confidence (or lack of) first arises from an individual's level of self-belief.

Most people who lack confidence can be self-conscious, taking an over-critical view of themselves. They often believe that whatever it is they would like to do, something somehow will go wrong. This pessimistic view is inhibiting and restricts them from trying new things. They might avoid a social situation which means meeting new people, or addressing a group at work. As a result, they will live within ‘comfort zones’ as a means of protection themselves from possibly (often imaginary) unpleasant & embarrasing outcomes. Such 'living in the box' stifles personal development and the ability to live & enjoy life to the full.

For example, the person might avoid:

• Drawing attention to him/herself
• Speaking to groups of people
• Using the telephone
• Applying for promotion at work, or a new job
• Learning new skills
• Asking someone they like for a date
• Starting a new project or hobby
• Meeting new people in unfamiliar circumstances
• Sitting an examination
• Travelling to unfamiliar places

Having confidence is about a positive self-belief where you can access a reserve of internal resources. Hypnotherapy facilitates the development of this important self-belief.

Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs are those aspects of the self that act as psychological restrictions on abilities. They are often simple negative assumptions, even based on phrases, such as 'I don't deserve to be successful'. They are effectively subconscious notions (often fears) about yourself which are broadly inaccurate.

The ten most common limiting beliefs are:

a) We fear Failure
b) We fear we are Not Good Enough
c) We fear not being Loved
d) We fear Rejection
e) We fear Greatness
f) We believe all rich people exploit the poor.
h) We fear Success
i) We are not Worthy of being Successful
j) We have to work very hard & long hours for lowly rewards
k) Other people are more intelligent, more confident, better looking...

Such beliefs sap our self-confidence, limit our potential.

Hypnotherapy lifts these negative views and restores a new SELF-BELIEF.

We need to know ourselves

What we are capable of doing or learning, what skills we have, how we communicate with others, how we feel about others, the way we respond to challenges, and, importantly, how we feel about ourselves.

The more we expose ourselves to new and challenging situations the quicker we are likely to build lasting confidence.

Often a person might have difficulty with that very first step - like a child learning to walk - or an adult going to a night class, meeting someone new, addressing a business meeting, learning to drive, taking an examination, starting a new hobby, studying a language, making a good impression at a job interview, moving house, dating, talking to strangers...the list goes on and on and in all of these plenty of confidence and self-belief is a great asset.

In all of this too your imagination can either help or hinder. We want to make it work FOR you by having the right mind-set.

Can hypnotherapy help?

As a means of accessing subconscious processes hypnosis will you can achieve inner self-confidence on social and business occasions. You can overcome blushing, sweating and shyness as your self-esteem rises. All of which will increase your enjoyment of daily life, so you feel more valued for who and what you are.